Now every girl and a guy has gone through this. Sometimes you are hopeful, other times you are angry, bitter and all that emotional rol...
Now every girl and a guy has gone through this. Sometimes you are hopeful, other times you are angry, bitter and all that emotional rollercoaster but what is common is that we have all felt this way at some point that if we changed who we are or even our past that these people will feel differently. It is a wrong way to think and here is why.
A crush is not the all in all. Remember that it is not a relationship. Do not crystalize it into something in your mind when the reality is opposite. I know!!! And I have been there. Sometimes it is a distraction from a mountain of personal problems you may be going through. And if that is the case remind yourself that it is not that deep and occupy your mind with something you are equally passionate about and busy yourself with that.
If your crush doesn’t feel all this excitement you feel, if he doesn’t reciprocate your feelings then he or she is not meant for you. It is not because they are bad people I am sure not all of them are mean but definitely they are not meant for you. And that is ok you will be found by someone who has calculated the risk and benefits of being with someone like you and who will do whatever to make you happy.
Now that we have dealt with your mindset here are practical tips to quicken the getting over the crush lol
- If you are stalking him on social media. Facebook, whats app, viber, twitter, instagram and snap chat please stop! Immediately!! It is not that deep.
- Do not look for any and every excuse to call or text. It is pathetic and you become even more undesirable.
- This is tricky the best way to get over someone is to mingle with someone else. I can agree if you can compartmentalize your feelings and reality but if you can’t find an activity past time like reading a book, volunteering, trying out a new hobby to distract you or basically hanging out with friends who make you feel better.
- If you obviously have guys lined up to take you out by all means go. I am in no way endorsing casual sex on these dates but to remind yourself how it is supposed to be. Keep the conversation light and simple.
- Pray to God about it sometimes he works faster so talk to him and a trusted friend but don’t be hurt if they grow tired of the story which often is the case.
- Tell yourself that you deserve better and treat yourself better.